INTERNATIONAL GIVEAWAY

Im doing an international book giveaway!

Rules are you need to be 16 or older, book depository must deliver to your country, use the hashtag #selfcaremarch with a description or picture of something you do to show yourself love. Follow my twitter @paperchain_x and facebook paperchainx for more info and updates. Good luck!

WE WERE LIARS BOOK REVIEW

Plot:

This is, in my opinion, a contemporary with a twist and a romantic theme. We follow four teens, the Liars, who summer on a private island but all is not how it seems. Under the perfect exterior, cracks are emerging. We watch the struggles of families and four teens across several summers, espically impacted after the main character’s, Cadence, accident. What unfolds cannot be guessed!

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Characters:

Cadence is strong smart witted aand madly in love. The migraines she suffers seem to have become lart of her personailty as well as her curiosity behind the mystery accident that caused them. I loved Cady and read mainly for her perspective. She has such great charavter development as the story unfolds.

Gat is the love interest, the outsider and the compassionate, intelligent teen. (Not that all of them arent those things to an extent). He doesnt see his place as on the island but keeps returning. Maybe for Cady. Maybe for his uncles sake. Maybe to make a point. But i loved his character and all he stood for. He made me laugh, he made me weep.

Johnny “he is bounce, effort, and snark” couldnt be summarised better. He is a happy soul with a good strong heart. I admire his character, his seeming innocence.

Mirren “she is sugar, curiosity, and rain.” She is exactly that. She is sweet, innocent, lovely and beautiful. So feminineand quirkyly gorgeous. I loved her character and find her utterly endearing.

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Reliability: I found both and Gat very relatable. Suffers migraines and as such is on medication, then is presumed a drug addict for using them. I felt a similar way for needing medication and felt judged like she was. Even though we have different illnesses I found this aspect relatable.

In addition, Gat can see both the beauty and tragedy in the world. Sometimes in his view the latter overtakes the former but he has a reasonably equal, admirable, view were he can enjoy the priviledge he has and fight for his own and others equality. I felt most sad for him when reading this book and his character in general provoked most of my emotions whilst reading.

Representation: Drug use for invisible illnesses is well represented as the main character struggles with migraines after her accident. Mental health and how it is treated by family’s of sufferers is presented very well but i cant gointo this more without ruining somethings.

Make you think?

Definitely! I did not see the ending coming, kept me guessing for sometime and I was so shocked at the reveal. The ending is what really made me think, doubt everything I thought I knew about the family.

Only reason it didnt get a 5/5 stars from me is that the ending was my favourote part but i felt that the author hadnt left enough pages for themselves to do it justice. It just felt a bit rushed.

4/5 stars would highly recommend!

 

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WATERSTONES BOOK CLUB

I am happy to announce I am working with Waterstones to bring you a young adult book club!

As you know, I love my books – so what better what better way to celebrate that than a book club! And a massive thank you to the lovely Waterstones Gloucester staff (especially Brogan and Sharon!) who were so welcoming today and really helped me relax to sort out the details.

The first club will be at 2pm Gloucester Waterstones, upstairs in the café. If you are travelling from Cheltenham please drop me a tweet and we can go together!

The first week is a social to get to know each other, what sort of YA books we want to read and how often we want to meet, but mainly to break the ice and make friends!

If you want to go and our anxious please contact me and we can sort something out 🙂

Here is the goodreads page: https://www.goodreads.com/group/show/214054-waterstones-ya-bookclub

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/waterstonesYA/

And we use the hashtag: #waterstonesYA if you’d like to use it so we can see your excited tweets, instas, or status’!

Can’t wait to see you there or on the goodreads page.

Love and paperchains to you all, and thank you again to Waterstones for this fantastic opportunity 🙂

Phoebe x

 

SELF INJURY AWARENESS DAY

When I was six years old I fell down the stairs, whacked my knee on a potted plant. My mum nursed me better. She moved the plant.

When I was seven I wet myself at school. The teacher cleaned up and class laughed. I learnt to be more confident when I needed the loo.

When I was eleven I felt what fear truly was – my Dad went out and I had a panic attack. I chased him down and cried and tried to breathe. He stayed by my side a while.

When I was fifteen I felt what sadness truly was, I thought I knew at thirteen, then fourteen, but fifteen really taught me. I started to hurt myself. No one moved the plant pot, for no body knew I was bruised.

When I was sixteen I felt what emptiness truly feels like and swallowed the medicine cabinet. I didn’t have the confidence to say but just like the wet mess I was soon found out. I felt a bit better about saying I was bursting next time.

When I was seventeen I would fake the flu and let depression take over me with days in bed – like I always had but this time more intensely. My Dad brought me food and kept me alive.

When I was nineteen I was so hurt and scarred but I made a choice to live and I felt disheartened and confident all in one. I moved the plant pot, I cleaned myself up and felt utterly confident to say if I was going to make a mess, I stayed by my Dad’s side a while, I told someone if I got bruised, I bought myself food and kept me alive.

Self-harm, depression, anxiety, borderline… it isn’t a death sentence, it isn’t the terminal illness you believe it to be. It can get better. It will get better. Start by moving the plant pot.

#SELFCAREMARCH

#selfcaremarch is where we post pictures, stories and videos of the things we do to show ourselves love and kindness and I would love if you could get involved! Post anywhere using the #selfcaremarch so I can see your work!

We self care to prevent crisis, to give ourselves the love and kindness we show others everyday. It can be hard at first – feelings of guilt and being ashamed can stink in. But keep on keeping on and it becomes easier – I promise.

I look forward to seeing your art, and follow me on snapchat and instagram paperchainx to see my journey this month!

LETS DO DBT // WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS??

STOP collaborate and listen up because today’s skills are important ones! 

Lets starts with the STOP skill.

S – stop. stomp your foot on the ground to signal and say stop to yourself.

T – take a minute out of the situation and breathe.

O – observe what you’re thinking and feeling and what is happening around you.

P – proceed mindfully. What do you do next? Use your wise mind (mixture of emotional mind and rational mind to make the best decision).

I get stressed out doing uni work so I signal stop by tapping or slamming my foot on the floor and remove myself from the situation if possible. I will leave a lecture, push my wheelie chair away from the computer or flop on my bed if working at home.

I will concentrate and breathe mindfully until I can think straight. (and if I still can’t will use week 3’s distract by techniques).

Then I will notice my body, my thoughts and my emotions. Accept them and think about what maybe I should be thinking and feeling. If people are around I look around and think about what they’re doing and how they’re coping with situation.

Finally, I proceed mindfully – making a wise mind decision. Take a break? Carry on? Or stop entirely? My choice and none of them are the wrong one. 

Perfect to use before a crisis begins but here is some advice if you’re already in a crisis. 

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IF YOU HAVE A HEART OR OTHER HEALTH CONDITION CONSULT YOUR DOCTOR BEFORE USING T OR I.

T – Temperature. 

You can cause the “diving effect” and essentially reset your brain my putting your face in cold water. It slows down your heart and the blood flow to your brain so you can “think straight” again and calms anxiety. I use it a lot in times of crisis and find it very helpful. IF shoving your face in cold water isn’t your thing, put a cold flannel on your face or ice under your eyes and on the inner side of your wrists. This has a similar effect though not as strong.

I – Intense Exercise. 

(If you used exercise as part of an eating disorder and still cannot exercise in moderation)

This can be a really good technique because it gets your heart pumping for a purpose rather than because of anxiety or whatever it is that is causing your crisis. Walking, jogging, dramatically dancing – it all works in a short burst. Do it mindfully so you’re only concentrating on your movement for full effect.

P – Paced Breathing. 

My favourite is castle breathing. Imagine the top of a tower of a castle that it completely flat. Breathe in two seconds and watch the brick build up. Hold for two seconds and watch it level out. Then breathe out for two seconds and watch it go back down. Then hold again and repeat. It is super effective especially if you’re able to visualise the castle.

P – Progressive Muscle Relaxation. 

Starting from the bottom (now we’re here) of your body, tense your muscles and relax them in turn. Do this mindfully for full effect, really feel the difference between tensed and relaxed muscles. It can help to take away some of the aches crisis’ cause and relax your chest to make breathing easier. I highly recommend.

That’s my advice as to what to do in a crisis – DBT style. If you have any questions or comments do leave them below. I’ve been paperchains, you’ve been you. x